Online dating site Plenty Of Fish (POF) recently made changes regarding who you can message and what can be in your messages… some are good, most are bad…
According to the site’s owner, Markus Friend, the goal is to bring the focus back on “finding relationships” and suppress horny guys who are “using POF as more of a hookup site”…
You can read the full email sent to users below, but here’s the key points…
I understand girls get bombarded with annoying messages like “wanna fuck bitch”… in fact, I’ve gotten them from undesirable girls (minus the “bitch” part). But, if you watch 5 minutes of any TV sitcom there’s going to be a “sexual reference”. I don’t think censoring messages with “sexual” words is the solution. I mean, this IS a dating site for adults… it’s not a Disney Kids chatroom for Smurfs.
I think a better solution is to ban guys who get blocked by multiple girls… especially from girls who have only blocked a small number of guys.
I get a bit depressed when finals are over and the college year comes to an end. I have this picture in my mind that all the hot college girls are leaving my city for the summer. That’s not really the case.
The girls are still there, they just go to different places. Instead of finding them around campus, at college sporting events and the local bars… you’ll find them elsewhere.
Here’s 3 great places to meet and pickup women during the summer:
Hot girls congregate where there’s water during the summer. Go to a beach, hotel swimming pool or go tubing. It’s a highly sexual environment, everyone’s half naked already. Ask around and you’ll find the popular place for young people to party at in your area.
Warm weather + live music + alcohol = a great place to pickup girls. There’s typically at least one big festival or fair every weekend in most areas. I recommend camping nearby if possible. It makes logistics much more easier for hooking up.
If you want to look attractive to women, you need to have good posture when walking…
I’m tall and used to walk slouched and facing down. It made me look evasive and shy.
I taught myself how to walk with a strong, confident gait. With these 5 tips, you can look confident when you walk too.
1.) Practice in front of a mirror, reflective window or video camera
It’s important to see yourself in action. I often walk in front of business windows where I can clearly see my reflection. You can also use the large mirrors at a gym, dressing room or dance studio. Otherwise, film yourself with your cellphone and watch the footage later.
2.) Keep your head up, back straight and your shoulders back
Slouching or leaning over when walking looks bad. Keep your back straight and look directly forward. Keeping your shoulders back will make your chest stick out and your gut seem smaller. It will also help you appear to be taller.
3.) Use a shorter gait
I hear so many guys blame their lack of success with women on their height, weight, looks, baldness and age. Rather than try to improve their social skills and dress better, they instead complain and be negative.
I particularly see this with guys with social anxiety or other personality disorders. They become hypersensitive about how others perceive them. They often times think they are being judged when in reality they are not. Even when others look at them negatively, the best thing they can do is ignore it and not let it bother them.
Based on this, I’m really annoyed by a bit of news I heard today. Apparently there is a college instructor named Haley Morris-Cafiero who is also a photographer.
She goes into crowded public locations, sets up a camera on a tripod facing her and has it continuously take pictures of her. The goal is to capture the critical expressions of innocent bystanders who walk by her.
In the early 2000’s, using online dating was “dorky” and made you seem desperate…
Now-a-days half the couples I talk to met through online dating. Even celebrities are apparently doing it.
Martha Stewart made news by joining dating site Match recently… wouldn’t you like to hit a crafty cougar like that
Apparently she isn’t the first well-known person to use such sites, here’s a list of 8 celebrities who have reportedly used online dating sites such as Match.com and eHarmony: