Over the last year, I’ve been fortunate enough to spend time with
some of the best seducers, womanizers and pick up artists in the
And not just spend time with them, but record them doing their thing:
Picking Up Hot Women!
A lot has been made over the years about the different “styles” of game —
* routines vs “natural” game,
* inner game focus vs outer game focus,
* direct vs indirect,
* or social circles vs cold approach.
Arguments erupt across message boards (keyboard jockeys) and every guru
seems to be proclaiming that his way is the “true” and “only way.”
Or if not the “only way,” surely the best way.
But while others continually draw distinctions between styles and methods,
models and theories, I’ve been interested in something different:
Without getting too philosophical on you guys, it’s always seemed evident to me
the all of the theorizing and rationalizing is just that… rationalizing a process (seduction)
that is mostly emotional.
The truth is, there are guys out there killing it night after night with routine stacks
and canned lines out the ass.
* There are also guys out there killing it saying whatever the hell they want.
* There are guys dominating social circles.
* There are guys dominating day game.
* There are guys who don’t escalate physically and get laid.
* There are guys who practically maul the girl in public and get away with it.
No matter which way you cut it, we’ve reached a point as a community where if
you can name it, somebody’s out there doing it and making it work.
Unfortunately, that fact doesn’t help the guys NOT getting laid… because they’re
back at square one:
What Do I Need To Learn?
Well, here’s my meager attempt to give a starting point…
Over the last year or so, watching guys with such varying styles and specialties,
I was lucky enough to sit and watch literally hours upon hours of infield footage
as well as watch many of these guys in person night after night.
And at the end of the day, no matter what they were doing, or how they were
doing it, they all had THREE distinct qualities… all of them…
A lot is made about attraction and comfort, phase shifting, etc., etc., — whatever
you want to call it, the idea that you start at point A (usually opening) and progress
to point Z in some order.
What’s become abundantly clear to me is that pick up isn’t linear… it’s cyclical.
It has a rhythm. And EVERY guy who is good, no matter his style or method,
has this rhythm.
It’s simple. It goes:
Attraction -> Comfort -> Attraction -> Comfort -> Attraction -> Comfort -> etc.
Break Rapport -> Establish Rapport -> Break Rapport -> Establish Rapport -> etc.
Show Intent -> Build Trust -> Show Intent -> Build Trust -> etc.
Banter/Flirt -> Small Talk -> Banter/Flirt -> Small/Talk -> Banter/Flirt -> etc.
Insert any method/school/theory into the blanks, but you MUST go back and forth
between the two.
Most guys who have been practicing pick up and still do not get results spend
way too much time in one or the other.
They are either way too comfort heavy (and get friended or flaked on) or they are
way to attraction heavy (see: dancing monkey).
You must strike a balance, and you only find that balance through calibration and
Every guy, whether going for same night lays or day game numbers, using routines or not,
wears their sexuality on their sleeve.
Everything is reframed so that the interaction is seen as a sexual relationship.
For instance: “That’s really cool you work with dolphins for a living,” becomes,
“That’s really cool, I love girls with awesome jobs.”
“You’re obviously trouble, I don’t know if I can handle you,” becomes, “You’re obviously trouble,
we just met and I’m already thinking about dumping you,”
“Do you remember my name? I’ll give you a gold star if you do,” becomes,
“Do you remember my name? You need to know what to scream in bed tonight,”
3. Solid Body Language
This goes beyond the simple, “Stand up straight, make eye contact,” type of advice that
everybody reads pretty early on.
This is more about being physically expressive and communicating well with your body.
* Do you stand in one place when you talk?
* How animated are you when you tell a story?
* Do you integrate your kino into your conversations?
These are the important things to notice.
The best PUA’s are never static.
They’re always moving, in one way or another.
I don’t mean they’re running in circles mid-conversation, but their body is constantly expressing
their thoughts and emotions — it’s by far the primary mode of communication.
But seriously, see for yourself.
All of that infield footage I was talking about (almost 30 hours of it)? It’s available on
a new website.
Sign ups are free to look around the site and get started on learning what I’m talking about.
I’ll be honest, theory DOES have a place in all of this, but at the end of the day,
pick up is a behavioral skill and you don’t learn behavioral skills by reading about them
(think martial arts — would you read a book about Muay Thai to get good at it?)
In the end, it’s about either getting out and DOING it yourself combined with SEEING it
being done by others who are better than you.
It’s no mistake that most of the top coaches in the industry got good by hanging out with guys better than them. It’s no mistake that some people pay thousands of dollars just to SEE some of this stuff done themselves.