Text messaging is a convenient tool to help you communicate with women when used properly…
The problem is guys often use them wrong…
Here’s an article by David Wygant on when to text message and when NOT to…
Are You Turning Women Off With Your Texts?
by David Wygant
Have you ever been on a few dates with a woman, and then all of a sudden …
… she stops returning your calls, your email … or your texts.
Or maybe …
You send a woman what you believe to be a very cute or funny text …
… and then when you get together with her, she acts like you ran over her dog with your car.
What about if you have ever sent a quick text to a woman which you think NOTHING of …
… and she refuses to speak to you for at least two day.
Has any of these things ever happened to you?
Were you completely at a LOSS for what caused this reaction in her?
So what is happening with all these texting mishaps?
Why does this happen so often?
Is it the women? Is it YOU?
Well… let me clear that right up …
For those of you who text, text messaging is the most abused and misinterpreted form of communication out there.
Four ways I think texting is great:
**”See you tonight at 7:00 at Joe’s Restaurant.”
It’s great for confirming things.
**”Did you get home safely?”
It’s great as a good night kiss.
**”What time are we meeting on Sunday? Let me know.”
It’s great to reconfirm things.
**It’s great for late at night when you lob in the “What are you doing right now …?” text.
**It’s a wonderful way to have verbal foreplay late at night when you’re looking to connect with a lover or a booty call.
Here’s where you can get into some of the kind of TROUBLE we talked about earlier with your texts though …
Texting is all about SHORT conversations.
Where texting gets ugly, you’re about to see …
Here are the seven ways that texting can get you into trouble:
TEXTING TROUBLE #1 - WORDS GET MISINTERPRETED
You can text a woman something that you think is joke, and they don’t read it that way.
This will get you into trouble, because they may NEVER call you back.
TEXTING TROUBLE #2 - TEXTS USED TO CANCEL A DATE
Texting is NOT intended to cancel a date. If you want to see somebody again, you need to call them and change the plans.
Texting is the chicken way to blow someone off, whether you ever intended to see them or not.
TEXTING TROUBLE #3 - TEXTING TO ASK HER OUT
Don’t ask a woman out via text message. Women can’t stand when a guy asks them out via text messaging.
Every woman I’ve spoken to thinks that when a guy asks them out via text message, that he really is not that interested in them.
And they all wish a guy would just pick up the phone.
Guys, if you’re interested, have some balls and just pick up the phone!
Granted, some women will say yes to a text date, but they prefer if you call them.
TEXTING TROUBLE #4 - DON’T SEND POST-DATE TEXT
If you had a great date the night before, don’t text her the minute you get up the next morning.
Wait a few hours.
Let the post-date recap settle down on both sides.
Give her a little time to think about you.
There’s no harm in waiting a few hours, especially after a first date. You don’t want to look overanxious.
TEXTING TROUBLE #5 - KEEP TEXTING TEMPORARY
Once you’ve texted back and forth a few times, and unless one of you is in a prison being tortured by a not-so-friendly cell mate, you need to pick up the phone and have a real conversation.
Remember that texting is meant to be a convenience…not a substitute for real interaction.
TEXTING TROUBLE #6 - NO RESPONSE GUARANTEE
Here’s another thing about texting - Just because you texted her, doesn’t mean she is going to respond.
You’re texting back and forth with a woman, then you send something to her and she don’t respond back.
She may have gotten on the phone … She may have fallen asleep . .. or … She may have gone into a meeting.
But because texting is so impersonal, you don’t know what happened to her.
TEXTING TROUBLE #7 - YOU ARE LEFT WONDERING
Let’s say you texted a woman on a Tuesday, she responded to your text, you texted her again and …
Now it’s Friday and she still hasn’t texted back. What do you do in that situation?
Remember that she may not be keeping text count like you are.
She may have forgotten to text you back because she got on a long phone call or got caught up in some work, and your text may have gotten lost.
Let me ask you a question? Do you answer every email that comes in … or does one sometimes get buried and go unanswered?
If you haven’t heard from someone in a few days, pick up the phone and call them. The old AT&T commercial was the best: “Reach out and touch someone.”
You never know what they’re response is going to be. Most of the time you’re going to be pleasantly surprised, but all of the time you’re going to get your answer.
That’s what dating is all about … getting answers.
Plus, you won’t drive yourself and your friends crazy wondering.
There’s a lot of misinterpretation that can happen via text messaging.
Understanding all of this I just wrote will help you navigate the fun side of text dating, and help you avoid the bad side of text dating.
Texting is a great way for a little verbal foreplay to stay connected in someone’s life.
It’s not a replacement for a phone conversation.
Start having conversations again instead of hiding behind text messaging!
Trust me … you will see that women WILL notice (and you will reap the benefits!)
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Until next time…