-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”
Have you ever called a woman on the phone to set up a date and had her say: “Friday night? Sure. Call me on Friday and we can talk about it…” ?
Or have you ever had a woman ask you if you’re a player?
Or have you ever had a woman challenge you about something ridiculous?
Or have you ever had a woman call you five minutes before a date and cancel?
Or have you ever had a woman pout and get upset because she didn’t get her way?
Or have you ever asked a woman for her number and had her say “Why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call YOU”?
Well guess what… you were being tested.
At some level, the woman you were dealing with was testing to see how much control she had in the relationship. The paradox of “testing” is that if you COMPLY with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually FAIL the test.
Hey, I never said that it made sense.
I was reading a great book recently called “The Way Of The Superior Man”, and inside he points out that a woman will often ask a man for something DIRECTLY… but if he DOES what she asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.
Ever been there?
So what’s with this testing stuff, anyway?
Well, the answer is fascinating.
Women test men because they need to QUICKLY figure out what they’re dealing with, and they can’t expect a man to just be straight up and honest about his strengths and weaknesses. I mean, let’s face it… us guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk, we often can’t back it up.
Also, beautiful women have a lot of options. They have their pick of men. And attractive women prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER and PERSONALITY.
Women aren’t attracted to WUSSIES.
So let me ask you… if you were an attractive woman that was being chased around by 100 guys, how would YOU go about figuring out which one or ones was the “real deal” and which were merely FAKING strength and confidence?
Of course… you’d have to TEST.
But you couldn’t test by saying “OK, I’m going to give you a test now, so get ready”.
No no no.
You’d have to use “blind” tests. Tests that would allow you to see a man’s true strengths and weaknesses. And in fact, you’d want to use tests that ideally DIDN’T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU WERE TESTING… OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out to be a was a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and easily.
This would give you the power. Of course.
And if you did this OFTEN, you’d eventually become so accustomed to doing it that MANY of the tests would become UNCONSCIOUS and work their way into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating with men.
Well guess what?
That’s what’s going on with attractive women. Many of the tests that they use with men are actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us automatically! And if you fail one of these tests, there’s a good chance that you won’t get another chance.
In this fast-paced world, we humans don’t have the time to spend getting to know people over a few months or years to figure out whether or not they’re the kind of person that would make a good friend or mate.
We need to know NOW.
So we use shortcuts.
Testing is a shortcut for women.
It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you have BALLS, or if you’re just another one of the bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her attention.
I hope you feel what I’m saying.
So next time you’re standing in front of a beautiful woman who you’ve just asked for her number, and she says “Why don’t you just give me yours and I’ll call YOU…” try CHUCKLING out loud, and saying:
“Cummon. Don’t give me that old line. Write your number down, and I’ll only call you 25 times a day until you wind up having to change it, because I have nothing better to do with my time than call someone who doesn’t want to hear from me.”
Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and look her in the eye expectantly.
Now, obviously there’s a lot more to this issue of TESTING. There’s a lot more going on than meets the eye.
There are all kinds of subtle cues and body language that women read to decide just what kind of man you are…and these cues also trigger ATTRACTION (or the opposite).
I’ve spent a lot of time researching this topic, and figuring out exactly what makes women feel that powerful emotion called ATTRACTION, and what repels them instantly.
And if you’d like an introduction to my main concepts and to learn the basics of how to be more successful with women and dating, then go right now and download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. It comes with three bonus booklets that are INVALUABLE and CRITICAL to your success with and understanding of women.
It’s all at:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com - just follow the ‘ebook’ link and download your copy.
And I’ll talk to you again soon.
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