Here’s an article by Sean Cooper, author of The Shyness & Social Anxiety System, about how to become less shy around girls that you are attracted to…
This topic is dear to me because I had major issues with social anxiety myself…
How To Become Less Shy Around Girls
By Sean Cooper
Whether you feel shy around most girls, or just around the girls you are attracted to, it can be very frustrating.
You don’t know how to ask her out or even start talking to her.
If you do talk to her, you have trouble coming up with something interesting to say to make her attracted to you.
In this article, I’m going to show you a couple simple steps to start overcoming your shyness around girls.
So let’s start off with the basic problem…
Why do you feel shy around girls?
Often it comes down to you feeling like you are lower status or lower value than them.
You feel in some way inferior to them.
By the way, notice how you don’t feel as shy around girls who you aren’t as attracted to.
This is because they don’t have the beauty which usually intimidates you.
So how do you overcome inferiority so you can act confident around the girls you like?
One way is to find out what is making you feel inferior, determine if it is fixable and FIX IT!
This includes stuff like crooked teeth, being overweight, out of style clothes, etc.
But what about problems you can’t fix?
What about if you were just born way shorter than everyone else?
What if you are just uglier than average, no matter what you do?
In these cases, I would suggest that you learn to live with your appearance as it is and learn to accept it.
Everyone has their flaws, and girls aren’t really looking for the flawlessly perfect guy anyway.
I’m sure you’ve heard before how girls pay far less attention to a guy’s looks than to his personality.
In my experience, this is true.
Sure, there are some girls who only like good looking guys, but this is the minority.
Most girls will look past any physical shortcoming you have if you are confident and can make them laugh.
Instead of trying to make your appearance perfect, work on improving your social skills.
The more you talk to girls, the less shy you will become.
As you talk to more and more girls, it’s almost inevitable that you will find a girl you have chemistry with.
If you want to learn more about being less shy around girls, then click here to read about how I was able to overcome my own anxiety problems.
Until next time,