Here’s a short article by Nick Shane, author of Street Smart Dating, with suggestions on how to eliminate approach anxiety…
How to End Your Fear of Approaching Women
by Nick Shane
What exactly is it that keep most men including YOU from walking over to that beautiful woman in a mall, at a bar or coffee shop and introduce yourself?
Okay bad idea.
You should NEVER “introduce” yourself. This may have worked 50 years ago but today … forget it!
But why do men get nervous when they want to meet and chat up a woman? Why do you think you get that shitty feeling in your stomach that wants to tell you “Don’t do it! Don’t approach her!”
Let’s have a look…
You see, everybody blames your lack of confidence as the main reason why you have a fear of approaching women. This isn’t entirely true.
The main reason why you can’t just walk up to any woman and strike up a conversation is because you don’t know what is going to happen! This is exactly why people get scared or nervous in any area of life. The unknown scares the hell out of us.
So…the first step to conquering your fear of approaching women is to understand why most guys get scared and hesitate in the first place (and no, it’s not because you just aren’t confident enough).
First and foremost, most men are scared of approaching women because of the possibility of a painful rejection. They don’t want to get shot down or denied by a woman because it’s just bad for someone’s ego. So they play it safe, check her out from head to toe from a distance and never do anything about it.
Does that get you anywhere? Unfortunately NO!
The second reason that keeps you from chatting up women is simply that you don’t know how she will react. If you have never talked to a woman in your life, then just like anything that is new and not familiar to you, you’ll get nervous. Or you may have even tried a couple of times to approach women here and there but had bad results.
Yes, women can be bitchy if you don’t know how to handle them. You probably made a fool out of yourself once and now you don’t want it to happen again. But let me tell you that you are not alone. We are all in the same freaking boat!
But if you don’t do anything about this, then life will just pass you by…and you will regret it that you haven’t approached more women.
So what I’m going to do now is this: I want to assure you that even without a massive amount of experience or confidence, you can approach and chat up ANY woman you would like to meet successfully.
Do you know how I am going to do that?
I am going to GIVE you a killer line that will get a positive reaction from ANY woman, no matter how beautiful she is. This will take away your fear because you have something in your toolbox that is guaranteed to work.
I have tested it, and I can proudly say that in 9.5 out of 10 times a woman will get hooked!
Just walk over and say (without tapping her on the shoulder): “HEY! (wait until she turns around and faces you) Listen … I need a female opinion here. I’ve heard that women can only put on mascara … when their mouth is open. Is this true?”
All you have to do after that is be cheeky, tease her some more for about 3 minutes and you can take her number. You see, the dating game really is much simpler than you think … IF you know how.
Keep it up!
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Check out my book “Street Smart Dating“. It is chock full of tips to help regular guys like YOU become more successful with women and dating.