Here’s an article by Brad P dating guru about how to expand your comfort zone and overcome anxiety in order to become better with dating women…
Comfort zone is one of the easiest ways to measure your inner game. How often do you you find yourself out of your comfort zone?
What happens to you when you’re out of your comfort zone? Do you just shut down? Do you need to leave the situation?
If you are out of your comfort zone a lot, and taking yourself out of situations, then you aren’t living life to the fullest.
Quality of life is one of the main things that we are trying to enhance by learning seduction and dating.
It’s very normal to have a small comfort zone unfortunately.
Most people were raised by adults that have small comfort zones themselves.
When we get out into the world and we have to take a few hard knocks, especially when we are meeting women and getting tested by them, it can be very jarring.
Most people just haven’t been exposed to any adversity. The level of adversity that you get exposed to in high school or in your home life is pretty small compared to the kind of adversity you’ll encounter when you are trying to pick up girls you don’t even know for one night stands.
If you want to expand your comfort zone you have to do things that are outside of your comfort zone.
You have to spend time being uncomfortable to become desensitized to the lack of comfort.
One thing that I did that helped me a lot was when I went backpacking through Europe by myself for a month.
I didn’t have anybody that I knew to help me. I was completely lost sometimes and it made me get a lot more comfortable with the unknown. Being comfortable with the unknown is one of the keys to inner game.
Most people have an immediate reaction of fear when confronted with the unknown. Their second reaction is trying to explain it away.
Next time you encounter something unknown that scares you, accept that its something that you don’t understand and accept that you’re not going to understand everything in the world.
Maybe you have a girl who does something really strange. She shows you that she likes you. You think that you are going to take her home. Then she does something unexpected.
This actually happened to me. I had a girl who I was digging and I thought she was digging me.
We met at a club and we were ready to go home together. We went to get our coats, and she got her coat first. Then I reached and grabbed my coat and I put my coat on. I turned around and she was gone!
I looked around the club for her, and she had left. She decided last second that she wasn’t going to go home and have sex with me. Why would she do that? It can freak you out.
I tried to explain it away and I stopped myself and said “There’s some things in life that I will never understand. Instead of trying to understand this, I’m going to meet some more women.”
I had a good result at the end even though I didn’t understand what the heck happened earlier.
It’s essential to get outside of your comfort zone. It’s essential to confront all of your fears. The best way to get outside of your comfort zone is to do the 18 degrees of social freedom.
These exercises will put you well out of your comfort zone little by little.
If you are interested in getting out of your comfort zone try my seminar “How to Beat Approach Anxiety”.
It includes the 18 degrees of social freedom and lots more great info. Beating social anxiety is a huge key that unlocks many of the secrets of life.
You will feel happier, more comfortable, and become socially magnetic when you get rid of your approach anxiety and social anxiety.