Here’s an article by David Wygant on how to get out of your head,
and stop worrying about approaching women…
How To Get Out Of Your Head Once And For All
I seem to hear the same things over and over
again from guys. One of those things is,
“David, I’m so in my head.”
So the term “in your head” is really just
your way of saying, “I want to go do this,
but I’m worried about x, y and z.”
If you think about it, though, the principles
of meeting people are very simple.
You observe what they’re doing. You react to
what they’re doing so you can really connect
to their world.
Then you speak with authority, playfulness and
confidence. It’s really very, very simple.
What makes it so difficult is the fear that’s
associated with it.
You decide at that present moment whether to do
it or not.
If you don’t do it, what happens is you go
into what people call “getting into my head”
(which means that you’re finding an excuse not
to do it at that moment).
I’ve been teaching this a long time, and it’s
the same principle over and over again.
I taught myself those same principles over and
over again until I got it right.
So when you’re in your head, what that really means
is that you just don’t want to try at that moment.
You’re too afraid to give it a whirl, because you’re
too caught up with seeking approval.
You really and truly believe that if this doesn’t
work out, things are going to be really bad for you
that day (or whatever it might be based on stuff in
Past programming could be from the way your parents
taught you, the way kids teased you in high school,
whatever it was.
You need to remember that it’s all in the past.
Going back into the past is another way for you not
It’s just an excuse.
You think, “Well, this failed me 23½ years ago,
so I’m not going to do it now. I don’t want to do
it now because if it fails, then I’m going to be a
total failure because I’m giving all my power away
to this person I don’t even know.”
There is no such thing as failure in life.
There really isn’t.
If a professional football player plays in a game
and the team loses, did he fail?
No, he tried his hardest and they didn’t win, but
there will be another day.
A stock trader trades a stock and it goes the wrong
Is he a failure?
No, it just didn’t go the way he thought it was
going to go.
In life, if everybody quit as often in other areas
of their life as they do about approaching women,
they’d be broke and homeless and living on the
side of the road.
They would be holding up a sign saying, “I’m a
quitter. i can’t afford to pay my bills. Can you
please give me some money?”
So getting into your head is just your safety zone.
It’s you basically saying to yourself, “I’m much
more comfortable not trying than trying.”
If you really want to BUST OUT of your safety zone
and get out of your head, you should watch these
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