How to Pretend A Girl Is Pursuing YOU In Order To Build Attraction
by David Deangelo
I was amazed when I first realized that you could actually turn the tables around, pretend that you’re trying to “resist her advances,” and make fun of her for trying to “put the moves on you”… and wind up having the woman you’re talking to actually start feeling attracted to you as a result.
It really is amazing.
Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this approach and think, “Yeah, right. There’s no way that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you will MAKE her pursue you”…
But this isn’t just any old common way of “pretending.”
What you’re doing here is a very special, Cocky & Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.
I’m sure you’ve watched the Discovery Channel, and seen animals “play-fighting.” It’s common among young animals in particular.
Now, how do animals know that it’s only “play,” as opposed to “real” fighting?
I mean, have you ever seen the way some animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and bite each other?
It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.
But it’s not… it’s play.
Well there’s a very similar thing that happens when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky & Funny technique… and when you use this further to pretend that she’s trying to “pick you up” and you’re “resisting her advances.”
You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.
You have to be a little “overly suspicious” with your tone.
You have to act just a little too serious and offended.
These little cues, along with a good sense of humor and timing are the hints and triggers that make a woman instantly switch into “Oh, this is play” mode, instead of behaving as if you’re a loser who has no imagination.
There are some other key benefits as well, as you mentioned above, when you’re using this approach.
One is that you don’t come across as nervous or intimidated. The fact that you’re turning the tables around, having fun, and acting like you’re something special sends the message that you’re totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own skin… and, in fact, you’re SO comfortable that you’re going to go immediately to “play” mode.
Another is that it gives you a “character role” to play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss mode when they start talking to an attractive woman.
Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways to end the interaction…
You can say:
“OK, well I’m not going to give you my number, but you can write down your email for me, and maybe I’ll get back to you sometime…” etc.
It even makes taking things to the next level easy and charming, because you’re “resisting forward.”
A quick personal story:
I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon with a friend, and the waitress approached us to get our order.
She walked over and said something like, “Hi, can I get you something to drink?” etc.
I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking to my friend.
Then, as she finished asking the question, I turned to her with a surprised and “fake offended” look on my face and said, “Oh, that’s OK, I was just TALKING” (as if she had interrupted me).
She opened her mouth with the “Oh, no you didn’t! I can’t believe you just said that” look.
I shook my head at her.
Then my friend looked at her and said, “Wow, you’re very forward. Next thing she’s going to be asking for your phone number.”
I shook my head at her again, and rolled my eyes.
We gave her the drink order, and she went away.
She came back a few minutes later to tell me that my drink was going to be delayed, because they were making some kind of change in the kitchen.
Of course, I threw up my hands in despair, rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if she was disappointing me horribly).
She laughed and said, “Hey, you’d better watch out, I might have to ask you for your phone number”…
We had talked for a grand total of about a minute, and she was already joking around about asking me for my number.
Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a cute one, at that). She works in an environment where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one after the other…
Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing happens all the time when I interact with waitresses, etc. I’ve found that it’s no harder to get a waitress to give you her email/number than it is to get any other girl’s info, by the way.
What’s the secret?
Being playful, fun, different, Cocky & Funny, and not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her 100 times a day and tell her how pretty she is.
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I’ll talk to you again soon.
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