How To Talk To Women Over The Phone by Swinggcat

July 1st, 2008 by Mack Tight

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Swinggcat is a popular guru who was featured in The Game under the name “Grimble”.

He is famous for creating techniques such as push-pull and meta frames. He is also the author of the popular ebook ” Real World Seduction“.

Here is a great article about phone game that I dedicate to Dimitri the Lover to help him with the future Olga’s in his life.

I think the article is rock solid with a lot of great points about keeping your cool about flaking and being proactive about calling. He also introduces his idea of “Prizing” toward the end…

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How To Talk To Women Over The Phone…
by Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

When getting a woman’s phone number, the average collective male chooses one of three categories of action. In most cases, however, he is damned no matter which one of the three categories he chooses.

Category # 1: Trying To Win Over A Woman’s Heart…

Some men will try to win a woman over by attempting to act entertaining or funny. Acting entertaining and funny can generate MASSIVE ATTRACTION in women but only within the context of being the Prize.

In the context, however, of trying to win a woman over, acting entertaining and funny will destroy any ATTRACTION that was there. Even if a woman is laughing at everything you are doing and saying, she will probably be thinking: “Dance little monkey…dance!” Women somehow clairvoyantly know when you’re acting entertaining and funny as a means to impressing or getting validation from them.

Category # 2: Treating Her Like Your Wife…

If a woman gives you her number - even if you feel like you have a special connection with her or end up sleeping with her the first night you meet - she is not yet your girlfriend or wife. Treating a woman like a wife when first getting to know her will hurl you to the top of the Creep-O-Meter. This means DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business. Telling a confident, intelligent woman who you’ve just met what she can and cannot dowill make her run so fast it will make your head spin.

At some point, most of us, guys, have been irritated by a woman flaking on us, causing us to brood over it for hours and, then, angrily reprimand her to no avail - it sucks! But you know what: Whoop-de-do…go sail a f*ing boat! Suck it up! She doesn’t care. The angrier you get, the less ATTRACTED to you she’ll be. Later on I’ll tell you the *right way* to handle women flaking. SO KEEP READING.

Category # 3: Acting Aloof And Disinterested And Letting Her Pursue You…

One of the morals in the movie Swingers is: You need to wait seven days before calling a girl’s number - you wouldn’t want to look needy or desperate. They give a pretty funny example illustrating the consequences of breaking this moral when the protagonist, a lovable-loser named “Mike” calls a woman he has only known for a few hours seven times in a row, redounding in her telling him to never call her again.

The moral is right in theory but wrong in practice. With beautiful women in the Real World, NOT acting proactive will lead to many lonely nights. To smack you upside the head with this, waiting for women to call you is a hopeless strategy. Unless you’ve gotten a woman on the hook, waiting for her to call is not making her chase you, it is passively wishing for her to pursue you. I am NOT touting you to chase, pursue, and try to win women over, either.

Proactive Prizing: Actively Creating A Space For Her To Chase You…

In my book Real World Seduction I talk about Prizing - the art of making a woman chase you. You can only Prize women, however, within certain contexts. And MOST of the time, you need to proactively create these contexts. If you DON’T call a woman or if you passively wait for her to call you, you aren’t proactively creating the context to Prize her. It isn’t her responsibility to chase you; it’s your responsibility to make her chase you.

Will some women think you are chasing them? Yes, but who cares! You can undermine this by, for example, telling her: “You aren’t my type and I want to let you know that I’d never go for you, though I do find you amusing to talk to.” This is a form of what I call “Push-Pull” in my book Real World Seduction. If you’ve been studying my book, you probably have already realized why doing something like this will quickly and effectively get a woman chasing you.

Sometimes, no matter what you say, women end up flaking. I’ve met tons of guys who are amazing with women. Yet even they have experienced women flaking on them. Any guy who tells you he never has women flake on him is lying - point blank. The reasons for women flaking are too numerous to list. Many of these reasons are probably different from ones you’ve thought of. If they flake, brush it off, keep proactively Prizing them, and then ask them out again.

As long as you follow my guidelines - even if you’re still nervous while talking to girls on the phone - you’ll be a hundred times better off. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book Real World Seduction, do so. I give you step-by-step instruction on how to establish yourself as the PRIZE and get any woman chasing you, allowing you to achieve the mastery and success with women you deserve. And this is only scratching the surface of what I’m going to teach you.

Stop allowing opportunities to pass you by. Let me show you step-by-step how to generate massive attraction with women.

‘Till next time,
Swinggcat

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