Online dating site Plenty Of Fish (POF) recently made changes regarding who you can message and what can be in your messages… some are good, most are bad…
According to the site’s owner, Markus Friend, the goal is to bring the focus back on “finding relationships” and suppress horny guys who are “using POF as more of a hookup site”…
You can read the full email sent to users below, but here’s the key points…
I understand girls get bombarded with annoying messages like “wanna fuck bitch”… in fact, I’ve gotten them from undesirable girls (minus the “bitch” part). But, if you watch 5 minutes of any TV sitcom there’s going to be a “sexual reference”. I don’t think censoring messages with “sexual” words is the solution. I mean, this IS a dating site for adults… it’s not a Disney Kids chatroom for Smurfs.
I think a better solution is to ban guys who get blocked by multiple girls… especially from girls who have only blocked a small number of guys.
This is utter BULLSHIT. If a girl is 22 and says she wants to date guys 24-40, why should POF cockblock her and say “NO, NO, ANY MAN OVER 36 JUST WANTS TO FUCK YOU, DUMMY!”
I think the USER should have control over who contacts them… not POF. This is the rule that bothers me the most. I would think in 2013 ridiculous ageism like this would be gone.
The one rule that actually makes sense. If you don’t want guys contacting girls for sex, don’t fucking encourage it. This isn’t rocket science Minkus… I mean Markus.
Markus blames smartphones for the rise of guys using the site to hook-up. I call bullshit. Guys were horny and sent dim-witted messages well before there was a Plenty of Fish app.
I personally think he’s trying to “class up” his site due to competition from far more polished OkCupid. Good luck turning your sloppy ugly whore into a beautiful housewife, Markus.
Finally, you MUST read part 3 below… he pretty much shits all over AdultFriendFinder and similar sites…
My name is Markus and I created POF/Plentyoffish. When I created POF, I wanted it to be all about finding relationships with the right person. For the first 7 years this worked really well, I got the site to 10 million users without any employees people and POF was generating a ton of relationships. Around 3 years ago, everyone started using the website via mobile phones. Today about 70% of POF use is via a mobile phone and unfortunately about 2% of men started to use POF as more of a hookup site mostly due the the casual nature of cell phone use.
In sticking with my vision that POF is all about Relationships, I’m going to make a bunch of changes to ensure it stays a relationship-focused site.
1. Any first contact between users that contains sexual references will not be sent. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will be deleted without warning. This rule has actually been in effect since last month and it’s made the site so much better.
2. You can only contact people +/- 14 years of your age. There is no reason for a 50 year old man to contact a 18 year old women. The majority of messages sent outside those age ranges are all about hookups. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will get deleted.
3. Intimate Encounters will go away in the next few months. There are 3.3 Million people who use the site every day, of those there are only 6,041 single women looking for Intimate Encounters. Of those 6,041 women, the ones with hot pictures are mostly men pretending to be women. Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women.
In short the vast majority of people will not be impacted. This is because the vast majority of people are not going around spamming women saying “let’s have sex tonight”. I can’t change POF alone, I need your help to get the word out there that POF is all about relationships!