When I first entered the seduction community I was incredibly passionate about it. In fact I was OVERLY passionate about it.
When I went out with my friends or talked to them on the phone all I would talk about was different tidbits and techniques that I learned. I tried to convert all my friends into studying pickup just like me.
I ended up annoying my friends and driving them away.
In fact I lost one of my best friends. At the time I thought it was because he was too rooted in his AFC ways, stubborn and jealous. I told myself it was a good thing because he was just bringing my game down anyway.
Now I realize he was sick of being preached to by a loudmouth ‘know-it-all’ robot that was all talk and no action. I criticized everything he did. If we went out and he didn’t make an approach that night I would ride his ass. It got to the point where he stopped calling or going out with me because he didn’t enjoy it and I do not blame him.
Today I am more action and less talk. If my friends ask me for advice or for help I will give them it. If they choose not to approach women I will just enjoy their company in-between the sets that I open.
Everytime I go out I meet and see dozens of guys who could use the help of the seduction community but I keep my mouth shut. They need to chose to change and when they do they can find my blog and email address with a simple Google search and I will be there to help them at that time.
Improving yourself ultimately is the best way to improve your friends. Sometimes the things that seem the most selfish are actually the least.