Here’s an article by Stephen Nash about social circle game…
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Growing Your Social Circle
by Stephen Nash
Were you aware that the BEST way to meet new women is to develop your social circle?
Seems counter intuitive, and apologies for insulting your intelligence if I did…but,
With all the focus on Cold Approaches, I thought it would be useful to remind you that that’s really not the BEST way to meet new women.
Oh, and if you are looking for a girlfriend, searching for her via a cold approach would be akin to blindfolding yourself and heading off into the woods hunting “wabbit”.
So…social circle and lifestyle are *key* if you want to REALLY master the dating game.
In fact, how about some ways to literally design your lifestyle so your social circle BRINGS YOU WOMEN without you even lifting so much as a finger!
Sounds good, right?
First things first -if you really want to BEGIN this process of expanding your social circle, you will have to take the lead and make it happen.
Your friends may or may not be interested in meeting new people.
Your friends may or may not be interested on growing out of their comfort zone.
That is why it is so important for you to be willing to go out alone.
Don’t wait around for your friends.
Get active, get out there.
One technique is to lead is to organize events and activities.
I used to have a loft in Brooklyn, and would throw monthly parties as a way to expand my social circle. After every party, I would have new numbers of women that I eventually dated or invited to the next party.
Had I not taken the lead, and gone through the effort of making the event happen, I would never have met these women.
Also, I made countless new friends in the process, whom I can then invite to the next party etc etc.
Another fringe benefit to throwing parties is that when you are out meeting new people in other environments, you have an automatic way of keeping in touch with them - “Hey, I am throwing a party next month, give me your email address and I will send you an invite”.
All of these new people show up to your party, and now you are on your home turf, meeting new people. Everyone wants to meet you because it is your party!
I understand that you may not have the space to throw a party, but most people are able to throw dinner parties, right?
Here is an idea - throw a dinner party, and ask each friend to bring someone completely new who will not know the other people there.
I used to do this a lot, and it always makes for a pretty exciting time. AND, you don’t need to do cold approaches to make this happen.
Develop a theme around the dinner. I remember one dinner party I threw was based on a Mediterranean theme, and another was an evening with different “stews” from around the world.
Use your imagination and have fun with it. Again, this is a GREAT way to meet new people.
Feel free to confide in your female friends that they are more than welcome to bring their single friends along…
If you are totally out of ideas, throw a party in another person’s space.
Ask your friends, who happen to have the killer house in the center of town, if they would mind if you threw a dinner party at their house.
You offer to manage the invites, the décor, and the clean-up, while everyone invited will bring a dish to the dinner.
All they have to do is get dressed and have a good time.
If the party is going to be big, get some friends to help you out.
The basic rule of thumb is to have one person helping you for every ten guests. So, if you can only find three other friends to help you with the party, be sure to have no more than thirty people attend…this is supposed to be fun, right?
Lastly, if there is an interesting core of people at your place of employment, yet no one has yet taken the lead to organizing an after work drink/meal/outing etc, become that person.
Work is a great place to start meeting new people, as you are forced to be around each other, and almost certainly know people with which to socialize.
Countless groups go out for drinks after work, to try out a new bar or lounge, or a new restaurant. Make it an adventure.
Can you see how this is a very solid way to lead the expansion of your social circle?
If you use your imagination, and take the lead, there is no way you can be stopped from expanding your social circle.
In fact, one of the nice fringe benefits to leading your social life, is that other people will naturally call you with invitations to their cool events.
Most people are interested in expanding and enhancing their own social circle.
If you help them in doing that by inviting them to your outings, they will often reciprocate the invitation.
Taking the lead and getting active is a no-lose situation for you Mark AND it is the BEST way to meet new women.
So, try to take ONE action TODAY with this…maybe call your wing or best buddy and set a date for a dinner party.
Or, check on that new venue that recently opened and see if they have group events or if you can secure an area of the bar for a private tasting.
At the least, select three venues or promoters and get on their mailing lists…then, you will start receiving new ideas sent directly to your email inbox (which I hope you are checking regularly!).
If you are looking for a girlfriend, or even just a few dates, taking charge of your social circle is THE way to do it.
Use some of these ideas & techniques here and put them into action.
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