Approach anxiety is a condition where people (usually men) get nervous about talking to unfamiliar members of the opposite sex. They rationalize in their head why they SHOULDN’T approach the girl or guy. For example, “she’s probably got a boyfriend”.
It can severely inhibit their dating and sex life.
So how can you STOP approach anxiety?
Popular pickup artist Mystery advocates using the “3 Second Rule”. The 3 Second Rule is to approach a girl within 3 seconds of seeing her. This prevents your brain from having enough time to make excuses to not approach.
There is psychology backing Mystery’s 3 Second Rule. Psychologists recommend doing the things that you fear as fast as possible and without thinking. The more you hesitate, the lesser the chance you will do it.
Approach anxiety is you vs your brain. Your brain thinks there’s a high probability of risk, when in reality the risk is extremely low. There’s little likelihood of their being life threatening repercussions just from talking to a random girl. In reality, there’s high reward. You may meet a new friend or even lover.
So how can we occupy our brain in order to stop approach anxiety?
I suggest counting sheep. Seriously. Count sheep when you see an attractive girl. Then instinctively walk towards her. Stop counting and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Trust your instinct.
Just try it. It really works.
Scientists have concluded that counting sheep isn’t effective in helping you go to sleep. Imagining a relaxing scene is much better. But counting in my head helped me put in my contact lens without blinking. It occupied my mind and dulled my apprehension.
I then used this same strategy to stop approach anxiety. It prevents your brain from imagining bad thoughts and worse cast scenarios. You become more likely to approach and will appear more confident when you do so.
Give it a try and let me know on my Facebook page if it works for you.
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