If you’ve been following the seduction community lately, you’ve probably seen the backlash over PUA terms like “day 2″, “HB10″, “DHV” and even terms as basic as “pick up artist” and “seduction community“.
Before I give my opinion about this matter, let me first take you back in time…
Terminology Creation in the Early 2000s
At that time, if someone created a theory or concept, they gave it a unique name or abbreviation. When others talked about the concept and credited the creator, it was in many ways a form of marketing. If you could coin a phrase that others in the seduction community used, it brought you instant notoriety and credentials.
It was okay when terms were being created for concepts that couldn’t be quickly explained using words found in the Webster’s Dictionary, but soon things got out of hand…
“The Game” Comes…
After “The Game” came out, guys were creating unnecessary terms in hopes that they would stick and give them recognition.
Marketers soon realized there was money to be made. They would create products regurgitating the concepts explained in “The Game”. Rather than give credit where it was deserved, they would rename the terms. Basically they were just reinventing the wheel and making things even more confusing for newbies.
My Issues at that Time
Around this time I had two meltdowns regarding terminology…
First, I was going out with some guys I met from an online forum. One of them was telling me he hooked up with a “hired gun” the night before. At the time, a “hired gun” meant a hitman to me.
He explained that it meant a girl you pick up while she is working. I asked him why he just didn’t say he hooked up with a “waitress” and then proceeded to rant about cryptic pickup terms to everyone in our group.
Second, was my infamous “I feel like Tyler Durden” meltdown post from October 13, 2007. Basically all you guys bitching about PUA terms can check out that post and see you are almost 2 years late if you think you are cutting edge by talking shit about “LMR”, “IOI”, “DHV”, “AFC”, “PUA” and “AMOG“. I publicly slammed those acronyms when most of the current complainers were still using them.
My Current Opinions
So what do I think about the use of terms today?
I think things have ran there course and most of the unnecessary jargon has been weeded out and the needed phrases have justly stuck around.
Terms like “day 2″ have went the way of the dodo while “PUA” still persists today.
What I’m REALLY against is the use of unnecessary pick up terms just for the sake of trying to sound like you’re some pick up stud. For example, using “hired gun” to explain the broad spectrum of paid female workers is acceptable. On the other hand, using “hired gun” when you picked up a waitress is stupid. Waitress is more specific and it’s already in the English language, so use it!
To me, it is like some snobby wine expert using elaborate words and phrases like “sacchariferous” to describe “sweet”. Basically they use atypical words to try to paint a picture of expertise and sophistication, when to me it seems try-hard and artificial.
Finally, what do I think of the guys putting quotation marks around the word “guru” and talking shit about the use of words like “alpha male“, “pick up artist” and “seduction community”?
I think they are a bunch of whiny bastards and marketers!
Most of these terms either predate the seduction community or are easy to understand by those with little or no knowledge about sites like mine.
Sadly, today most of the trends of the seduction community are driven by marketers. In the 90s, self-help dating books for men used terms like “dating” and “success with women”. In the early 00s, terms like “pick up” and “seduction” were used and books that had “date” in them seemed like they were written by clueless mainstream authors. Now, the safe words are “attraction” and “dating” while words like “pick up artist” and “seduction” are being portrayed as creepy and dorky.
It is just the circle of marketing if you ask me. Just like how Nutrasweet took over the artificial sweetener industry in the 80s by saying saccharin caused cancer, these marketers are doing what they can to tear away market share from those who currently control it. I’ve studied many products in the past years and with the exception of a few, most teach the same thing under the hood no matter what is written on the outer body.
My opinions have went from being for terms, then against them, and finally to somewhere in the middle. I think others will follow in my footsteps.
So in summary, avoid unnecessary jargon and stop bitching about words so mainstream that even your mother knows what they mean. A pickup term also has merit if you cannot explain it using three words or less.