Mr. M is a 5′2″ Asian instructor for Love Systems. Here’s an article by him with some of his new ideas on attraction…
I used to have massive problems with attraction. I had my first kiss at 20, after trying for 5 years to get a girlfriend. I never wanted to be a 'pick up artist.' I just wanted to get better with women and understand why things went wrong.
Learning to generate attraction was a big part of this.
When I first picked up the book magic bullets handbook, I was hooked. Attracting women wasn't random any more. Through years of actual live research, Love Systems experts had figured out that beautiful women, no matter what their age or background, tend to be attracted to the same 8 things ("attraction triggers").
I'm just one of the thousands of men who have used the Magic Bullets framework to take control of my dating and sex life with more women of higher quality.
Attraction triggers are actually just one small part of one of the 24 chapters that cover everything from approach anxiety to seduction, dates, phone game, fashion, winging, physical escalation ("Kino") and more.
But Magic Bullets is a formula, not an encyclopedia. It's got dozens of breakthrough insights - stuff that took years to figure out and test - but the real genius is that it provides a framework that people can build on.
As I started to become really good with women and worked on advanced techniques and insights like Social Circle Mastery and Inner Game, I found myself coming back to Magic Bullets again and again as my starting point and for key building blocks.
(Before I move off the topic - if you don't have a copy of this book, you owe it to yourself to get it now. Why make the game much harder than it has to be? Magic Bullets is your indispensable instruction manual. Get it here.
Last year, Savoy asked me to do for attraction what Braddock and I had done for Social Circle Mastery and Inner Game.
This stuff is in summary form so far.
So, with full credit to The Don for introducing me to the concept, here are the secrets of the five new paths of attraction.
1. Buying Temperature
3. High Value and Sexual Frames
4. 'Warm and Fuzzy' Attraction
All things being equal, the more different ways she feels attracted to you, the better. It's definitely not necessary for a woman to feel all five. For example, for same night encounters, buying temperature or sexualization is often enough.
But don't be a one trick pony!
If all you do is create buying temperature, you risk becoming the "dancing monkey" / "entertaining clown." Focus only on "warm & fuzzy" and you'll hear "Let's Just Be Friends" before you finish this article.
Most women will be more interested in certain kinds of attraction than others. So, if your game isn't working, try shifting to another approach.
Also, "vibing" usually has to be there to at least some extent. Too many guys forget that the amazing routines from Routines Manual Vol. 1 and Routines Manual Vol. 2 are like straight 100% alcohol - they need to be mixed with something.
The rhythm should be something like this:
Normal conversation… normal conversation… ROUTINE! Normal conversation… ROUTINE! ROUTINE! Normal conversation… etc.
In the next part of this piece we'll cover the new ways of getting to attraction. Try these techniques out in the meantime; I'd love to hear your experiences.
And don't forget to start using Magic Bullets if you haven't already!
Mr. M is a lead instructor for Love Systems.