Recently I’ve been going through my stuff to find more things to give away to my readers in my February feed subscribers and comments contest (check it out now if you yet haven’t!) I have so much stuff that I haven’t touched in years yet it is so hard psychologically to let it go. But I know if I want to make room for new cool stuff that I will actually use I need to get rid of this old stuff that I don’t.
I think that this is true with other aspects of your life. You need to let go of the past in order to move forward.
I had my best wingman move and get married. Now he has a kid. Why the hell would he want to settle down when we were so successful picking up women together? I resented him for moving on with his life and leaving my behind.
How ridiculous was that? There were other wingmen out there for me and ultimately I should have been able to pick up women without a wing holding my hand. My game went into the shitter and I had no one to blame but myself because I should have moved on and let the past go.
There was a girl I was obsessed with for many years. I had a bad case of “one-itis”. I stayed in the city that she was in when I should have moved to a bigger city and gotten a better job. She gave me every opportunity but like a true AFC I always fucked it up. She eventually started dating a guy seriously and I didn’t see her for some time. I finally saw her at a bar when she was out on her bachelorette party. I was crushed. How could she have given up on us?
How ridiculous was it for me to think that! I fucked up and was blaming her for it. I needed to just learn from my mistake in the past and move forward and meet one of the other billion or so girls in this world.
You’re going to make mistakes. Events are going to happen that are going to embarrass you. Everyone could have been more successful or got laid more in the past. Everyone has had a past love, crush or friend move on without them. All you can do is take the information you learned and apply it to the present. Forget all the negative thoughts from the past.
A trait that I find in the guys who are the most successful with women and life in general are that they can let the past go quickly and move forward.