I’m hearing more and more people who are disapproving of the use of the terms “AFC” and “PUA”.
They deem it as a judgmental mentality that should not be used. They claim that the words cast a bad light on the pick up community and are degrading.
I do not see it that way.
I almost exclusively use the two terms to describe myself and not others.
When I use the word AFC, it involves my days when I didn’t understand social interaction and how to attract women. AFC stands for “Average Frustrated Chump” and I was average, frustrated and a chump so I don’t see where the issue is there.
Today I deem myself a PUA (short for “Pick Up Artist”) because it is such an accepted term.
I’m not a fan of it and particularly the use of the word “Artist” in it. Then again I do not like the word “penis” but I still find it a word that I’m forced to say from time to time in certain situations.
By calling myself a PUA I’m not trying to imply that I’m running around bedding women like Wilt Chamberlain. I’m not trying to say I’m this deceptively cunning individual who manipulates women.
I’m simply a guy who has realized and accepted that I was wrong and am now trying to change myself. I have become better with interacting and dealing with women as a direct result. I have transformed myself from an AFC to a PUA mindset.
To word it better, I became a socially enlightened individual.
But until I can use “SEI” and have people know what the hell I’m talking about I’m going to continue to use PUA.
To take it one step further, I think the seduction community has taken a negative term that predates it and has put a positive light upon it.
Back in 1987 the title “ The Pick-Up Artist” was used for a chick flick where the guy was a womanizer who was portrayed in a bad light.
Twenty years later it was used by Mystery’s reality show where socially incompetent guys learned how to overcome their fears, anxieties and hang-ups to become more confident and better interactively with women and with other members of society as a whole.